External circumstances are not what draw us into suffering. suffering is caused and permitted by an untamed mind. the appearance of self defeating emotions in our own minds leads us to faulty actions. the naturally pure mind is covered over by these emotions and troubling conceptions. the force of their deceite pushes us into faulty actions, which leads inevitably to suffering. we need, with great awareness and care, to extinguish these problematic attitudes, the way gathering clouds dissolve back into sphere the sky. when our self defeating attitudes, emotions, and conceptions cease, so will the harmful actions arising from them.

-his holiness the dalai lama